R U OK? DAY BBQ Breakfast this Thursday

R U OK? DAY BBQ Breakfast this Thursday

This Thursday the 8th of September is R U OK? Day and Gladstone News are teaming up with Hot FM, Roseberry Community Services and the BBQ Fairy to remind people to ask family, friends and colleagues the question, “R U OK?”.

IMG_2165Gladstone News and Carly & Ben from Hot FM will host a BBQ with the help of the BBQ Fairy at the station on Central Lane this Thursday morning. Roseberry Community Services will also be there with headspace, Branchout & Youth Services to speak on air about how they can help those in need of assistance.

 

Carly & Ben

Don’t forget to stop by the station and pick up a BBQ breakfast from 7am to 9am as we work together to raise awareness on such an important issue. Connecting regularly and meaningfully is one thing everyone can do to make a difference to anyone who might be struggling through life’s ups and downs.

 

In a 12-month period, it is estimated that 65,000 Australians make a suicide attempt, and around 45{7a2eb471754f58cbf59baa93ee81dc7b74d186cb2e306188f39c85ba863dbab8} of Australians will experience mental illness in their lifetime, while 20{7a2eb471754f58cbf59baa93ee81dc7b74d186cb2e306188f39c85ba863dbab8} are affected every year.

Do you have a niggling feeling that someone you know or care about it isn’t behaving as they normally would? Perhaps they seem out of sorts? Or they’re just not themselves. Trust that gut instinct and act on it.

By starting a conversation and commenting on the changes you’ve noticed, you could help that family member, friend or workmate open up. And if all is well, that person will know you’re someone who cares enough to ask.
 

Getting ready to ask R U OK?

Before you can look out for others, you need to look out for yourself. And that’s ok. To help you decide whether you’re ready to start a meaningful conversation, ask yourself:
AM I READY?

Am I in a good headspace?

Am I willing to genuinely listen?

Can I give as much time as needed?

AM I PREPARED?

Do I understand that if I ask how someone’s going, the answer could be: “No, I’m not”?

Do I understand that you can’t ‘fix’ someone’s problems?

Do I accept that they might not be ready to talk? Or they might not want to talk to me?

PICKED MY MOMENT?

Have I chosen somewhere relatively private and comfy?

Have I figured out a time that will be good for them to chat?

Have I made sure I have enough time to chat properly?

Start a conversation

ASK R U OK?

Be relaxed, friendly and concerned in your approach.

Help them open up by asking questions like “How are you going?” or “What’s been happening?”

Mention specific things that have made you concerned for them, like “You seem less chatty than usual. How are you going?”

LISTEN WITHOUT JUDGEMENT

Take what they say seriously and don’t interrupt or rush the conversation.

Don’t judge their experiences or reactions but acknowledge that things seem tough for them.

If they need time to think, sit patiently with the silence.

Encourage them to explain: “How are you feeling about that?” or “How long have you felt that way?”

Show that you’ve listened by repeating back what you’ve heard (in your own words) and ask if you have understood them properly.

ENCOURAGE ACTION

Ask: “What have you done in the past to manage similar situations?”

Ask: “How would you like me to support you?”

Ask: “What’s something you can do for yourself right now? Something that’s enjoyable or relaxing?”

You could say: “When I was going through a difficult time, I tried this… You might find it useful too.”

If they’ve been feeling really down for more than 2 weeks, encourage them to see a health professional. You could say, “It might be useful to link in with someone who can support you. I’m happy to assist you to find the right person to talk to.”

Be positive about the role of professionals in getting through tough times.

Push back

If they don’t want to talk, don’t criticise them.

Tell them you’re still concerned about changes in their behaviour and you care about them.

Avoid a confrontation.

You could say: “Please call me if you ever want to chat” or “Is there someone else you’d rather talk to?”

Check in

Pop a reminder in your diary to call them in a couple of weeks. If they’re really struggling, follow up with them sooner.

You could say: “I’ve been thinking of you and wanted to know how you’ve been going since we last chatted.”

Ask if they’ve found a better way to manage the situation. If they haven’t done anything, don’t judge them. They might just need someone to listen to them for the moment.

Stay in touch and be there for them. Genuine care and concern can make a real difference.


If you are worried someone might be suicidal contact Lifeline for crisis support on 13 11 14.

If you believe their life is in immediate danger contact 000.

Roseberry Community Services is a community based organisation providing a variety of services to meet the identified needs of young people and families who are experiencing difficulties as well as accommodation services.
For assistance call (07) 4972 0047.

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