Five phrases guaranteed to make your kids stop begging

I was in the supermarket last week, a sound caught my ears. It was a kid, a preschooler, begging for a lolly at the checkout. “Mummy, can I have this?” the little girl asked. “No, honey,” the mother smiled. “But mum, I don’t have one.” “We have plenty of lollies at home,” the mum reminded. “But I don’t have this one.” “I said no,” the mother replied, With having no luck breaking her mother down verbally, the little girl upped her ante. Her face turned red and words about unfairness and meanness erupted from her mouth. And then her next strategy: crying. In between her cries and words, she delivered gasps of air, purely for effect. “Just put it in the cart,” the mum replied. “But you can’t have it until after dinner.” The little girl’s tears turned to smiles within less than one minute of her setting eyes on what she wanted. Now, I’m far from a perfect parent, but I cringed knowing what this mother had just traded in fear of a nasty temper tantrum. I wanted to hand the mum a laminated card with these five fail-proof sayings burned into the paper. Every single one of them is good and I pick which “flavour” depending on my mood. Next time your mini cross-examiner is giving you the run-down, take charge, be a mum, and above all, be consistent. If you say no, you better mean it. By changing your mind, your child has gained more than a lolly; they’ve gained the knowledge you can be broken down easier than a cardboard box. Have fun practicing these phrases with your little interrogator: 1. “Asked and answered.” Let’s replay the scenario from above. Child: “Mummy, can I have this?” Mother: “No, honey.” Child: “But mum, I don’t have one.” Mother: “Asked and answered.” Child: “You never get me anything.” Mother: “Asked and answered.” If the child keeps at it, you become a robot, saying the same three most blissful words over and over and over again. 2. “I’m done discussing this.” Child: “Can Ashlyn spend the night?” Mother: “No, she just spent the night here last week.” Child: “Please?” Mother: “I’m not discussing this again.” Child: “But …” Then, from the mother, all action, no words. Smile pleasantly, tilt your head to the right, give the best devil eyes you can, and then simply walk away. 3. “This conversation is over.” Child: “Can I ride my bike?” Mother: “No, it’s raining outside.” Child: “But I’ll wear my rain coat and it’s only sprinkling.” Mother: “This conversation is over.” Child: “But pleeeasssee?” Mother: “Asked and answered.” Become your usual robotic self. Remember, you’re a rock. 4. “Don’t bring it up again.” Child: “I want these shoes.” Mother: “No, those cost too much.” Child: “But I don’t like those.” Mother: “You’re getting the shoes in the cart and that’s final. Don’t bring it up again.” Child: “I need them!” Mother: “You brought it up again. There went your dessert for tonight.” Yes, you’re going to get more crying with that response, but remember: getting your child to understand you mean business is a marathon, not a sprint. 5. “The decision has been made. If you ask again there will be a consequence.” Child: “Can I watch the iPad?” Mother: “No, you know you’re not allowed having technology at the table.” Child: “I won’t get food on it.” Mother: “The decision has been made. If you ask again there will be a consequence.” Child: “But I promise!” Mother: “I told you not to bring it up again. No iPad for the rest of the day.” Prepare for a few tantrums until your child learns they’re not going to get anywhere. This is part of their normal testing stage. Your child will eventually realise nothing changes your mind. This is how you will earn your child’s respect and set up a relationship where your child accepts your decisions the first time. Don’t forget: their best friend, Timeout, is only a few short steps away. Here’s a success story: After years of using these phrases with my four-year-old, I’m reaping the benefits everyday with no tears or fighting back. Here’s the conversation I had with my daughter, Charlotte, while writing this article. Charlotte: “Can I have a cookie?” Me: “Yes, you may have one.” Charlotte: “Can I have three?” Me: “This conversation is over.” Charlotte: “OK, I’ll just break it in half so I can have two.” Sure, I see some passive-aggressiveness in that last comment, but I still won the battle. She happily ate her one cookie and I happily continued typing at my computer. You can have these blissful conversations, too. Laminate a card or start memorising, but trust me, they’re almost better than chocolate. By: Heather Steiger for YourTango.com.

Five phrases guaranteed to make your kids stop begging

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